30 Days of submission: Day 5

5) Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you?
Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?


Regular readers of my blog will already know that D/s and the relationship dynamic between a Dominant/submissive isn't new to me. In terms of my relationships being similar or very different from one another - it is the same as any relationship goes. Every time you get with a new partner, it is different. If it was all the same, we wouldn't bother with moving on right?
Of course, all my D/s relationships had something in common - power exchange.
He (my partner at the time) would be in control, he would have the power, while I would be submissive to him. The level on which that power is exchanged, the ways in which it's done and the structure or foundations of our relationship would be personal to us.

For example, one of my D/s relationship was heavily structured on protocol. There'd be low, medium and high protocol and I would switch between them when required to, based on circumstance and situation. That relationship included aspects of discipline and punishments, a strict set of rules and boundaries. Sado/Maso play and humiliation took part in a lot of our scenes and our relationship was very community-involved.

The other D/s relationship I had was much more relaxed. Of course, the obvious power exchange was there and he always remained in control. But there was no real protocol structure, a smaller set of "rules" and while discipline and punishments were still a piece of our relationship, they were rarer and more softly carried out. . And overall, was a more gentle, loving relationship.

My current relationship, although not a D/s one still maintains some level of power exchange. This usually happens in the bedroom but does shine through in other areas of 'us'. But there are no rules, no structure or boundaries and neither one of us is really in control until the clothes come off.

This is such a vague answer to what was an essentially in-depth question but really the best I could post. Every relationship is different, every relationship is unique- Being together, particularly in a D/s dynamic is all about finding the perfect balance of what works for you both.


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