BDSM Safety. A MUST READ AND SEE FOR NEWBIES.

You've got two choices here. You can scroll straight down to the bottom of the page and simply watch the video. Or you can read the next few paragraphs if you want a personal insight into BDSM safety (from my point of view).
BUT if you are new to BDSM or even if you are an experienced Dominant/submissive/kinkster, please don't leave the blog today without at least watching the video - Do yourself and your current/future partners, a favour.



Now, if you came here today expecting something a little bit naughty, a lot risqué or plain out BDSM porn (even the written kind!) - you've stopped at the wrong place. And I know, it's a Saturday night and we all want to get our kink on - I do, as much as the rest of you but sometimes, even us experienced whip-wielding, flogger-throwing BDSM enthusiasts need to take a break from the hot scenes, the top/bottom play time and find some space to refresh our basic understanding of what we practice.


I've been part of the BDSM community for nearly eight years. Now that's an insane amount of time when I haven't even reached the age of 25 yet and I still consider myself a 'newbie'. In fact, I doubt that even if I stayed in the realms of kink my entire life that I would know everything about what I do by the end of my time. I wont. BDSM is a complex journey and continuous learning curve.

I am a submissive woman, and despite the handful of occasions where I've 'topped', purely to gain insight in what is it to act, feel and think like a Dominant - all of my BDSM involvement otherwise has been an experience sat from the 'submissive seat'. I love it there. It's a comfortable place to be and I don't  plan on switching roles any time soon.

While being submissive means generally handing over much of my choices, decisions and responsibilities to another who can control, dominate and essentially look after me, I have a duty to keep some responsibility always. I am just as responsible for own safety as any Dominant I chose to be with, is. And I have a responsibility to pass on my knowledge and understanding of BDSM to others within the community. No. Scrap that. Everyone who actively practices BDSM has a responsibility to be knowledgeable and then to pass that knowledge on. We are a community and should work together to emphasise the safety of BDSM - and this is what this post is essentially all about.

We're all here because we find the appeal in kink. What our kinks are, vary across the board but we all have one, or several. It might be bondage and rope, floggers, whips or canes. We might enjoy edge play... knives, hot wax or ball-gags. It might be all those things combined.
Playing is fun and exciting but without the correct knowledge, information and understanding - even the most simple things we practice can go wrong. (Take this warning, from someone who's personally been at the receiving end of 'play-gone-badly.') Even if your playing partner is an experienced kinkster, is considered a 'Master' of the art or has an unmarked reputation - accidents happen.

Dominants, take time out to practice your methods regularly. Safety before egos - always.
Submissives: do not assume that all your safety lies in the hands of your D-type. Sure, trust them always but be knowledgeable too. Know the difference between a bondage knot being firm and being too tight. Your insight into BDSM needs to be level with that of a Dominant, even if you are *not* the one tying the ropes or throwing the floggers.


This video I'm posting comes from Master Daddy Johny.
He and his submissive partner have created what I can only describe as a "vital-informational video" for anyone in the BDSM scene. It is directed at newbies and inexperienced kinksters but  I personally feel that even those of us with years of background experience can benefit from watching this from time to time. Even eight years into this incredible journey, I take time out to go to classes and online discussions on BDSM safety.

 The video is 25 minutes long approx. It's not long-winded or boring and deserves a watch.
Might I recommend that you share the video... Post it on your blogs, share it on your social networks, tell your friends about it. Then save it to your favourites and re-watch it occasionally.


WATCH THE VIDEO



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