30 Days of submission: Day 8

Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission?
Why or why not?

So now you know, that when I'm in a D/s relationship - discipline and punishment are usually part of the fixtures - in most cases , either one would not be spanking or corporal punishment.
I am a masochistic and anyone who gets involved with me knows from very early on that pain  and impact play sets my sexual senses alight. Pain gets me aroused, I get wet and incredibly turned on when I am spanked, or whipped or just generally hurt by (almost) anything. So I guess bending me over the knee and spanking me in a means to punish me - would not really work.

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30 Days of submission: Day 7

Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission?
How do you feel about it?

I've already briefly covered this in the last post (Day 6). With so many questions and with them all being quite in-depth, some of my answers might seem a little repetitive at times.
Discipline for me, personally, is more important than punishment is; although I am definitely the kind of submissive who benefits from the both. The difference between them is - Discipline is something I want.  Punishments are something I sometimes need but never really want.

30 Days of submission: Day 6

6) What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or something else?

I often get asked this question and my answer is always the same - It is simply part of my DNA.
It's a common misconception that submissives and/or Dominants are usually created from being victims of childhood trauma or negative experience. While this is sometimes the case, it's actually quite rare. I've been asked whether I've been a victim of abuse, whether I have 'Daddy' issues or a problematic past which brings me to being submissive. The answer is 'no'.
I am submissive just because that's what comes naturally to me.

30 Days of submission: Day 5

5) Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you?
Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?

30 Days of submission: Day 4

4) Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?

Inside of my relationships, I steer clear of being Dominant. It's never been something I've had to consciously think about not doing- it doesn't happen because I'm just simply not wired that way.

30 Days of submission: Day 3

3) How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission?

I'm a firm believer that you don't ever truly 'become' something. At least not something like being a submissive or a Dominant. Of course, we might not explore or even find these parts of ourselves until much later on in life but who we are is determined on the day we are born, maybe even before then.
I tell most people that I discovered I was a submissive when I was seventeen. It's not a mistruth entirely - It was aged seventeen that I became in touch with the particles of my personality that make me a submissive being.

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You've got two choices here. You can scroll straight down to the bottom of the page and simply watch the video. Or you can read the next few paragraphs if you want a personal insight into BDSM safety (from my point of view).
BUT if you are new to BDSM or even if you are an experienced Dominant/submissive/kinkster, please don't leave the blog today without at least watching the video - Do yourself and your current/future partners, a favour.

30 Days of submission: Day 2

 

2) Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

My regular readers will already know about my current relationship. Those who have followed me while I've blog-hopped from my old blog to here or the people I consider friends will know that although I crave to submit - I am very selective about who I choose to submit to.

30 Days of submission: Day 1

So, I've done this before but it was published on to an old blog that's no longer public, and when I went to retrieve the meme to post it here... I realised I'd completely lost my answers. Boo, hiss.
Nevermind, it simply means that I'm back to do it all over again. I'll be hot-linking the individual posts as I create them onto the "30 Days of submission" page, which you can find on the navigation bar of my Blog.
~ I remember from doing this before that this is certainly one blog challenge that needs lots of thought put into. It's a time-consuming, thought-provoking project and so I probably won't post in a straight run of thirty days but will still complete the challenge right through. If it's an easier question and time is on side, I may even do more than one in a day!

For now, on to Day One..

Q&A: 20 Questions of Kink and BDSM

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