About Me

 

Welcome to the Blog.

I'm Erica. I'm a full-time mother, an author and published writer and a self-confessed media junkie.
Somewhere in between all of this, I am also a pole dance enthusiast, chocolate-lover and devoted Blogger. Perhaps a couple of other things vital to this particular blog are -

I am a submissive woman.
I am one half (although certainly not the 'better half') of a 'vanilla' couple.


So, that's the basic and simple introduction but for those who want a deeper understanding and level of familiarisation with the Blog, feel free to grab a hot drink and read on. :)

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I discovered some eight years ago that I was a submissive woman.
I'm sure that long before then, I was aware of the traits that made up for me being submissive, but I was young and clueless and could never have connected my personality foundations to the lifestyle choices I would end up making in the future.
It was my 'first-time' encounter that really made me aware of my sexual tastes being alternative. Now, I know for many, that the 'first-time' is not always great. It is awkward and clumsy and a little bit not like we imagine it to be, but alongside being all those things - for me, it was bland, and unfulfilling too. There on came the second time, the third time and several consequent fucks following and after each session, I was left with the same thought.... "Please tell me sex gets better than this."
But it never did. I started struggling outside of the bedroom department too. That relationship ended quickly and sharply and not so long after, I  began my own journey of self-discovery.


FAST FORWARD::::

In less than a decade, I have learned more about myself than I even knew existed. I'm clearly into the 'Kinky Fuckery' - as Christian Grey would call it but my submissive nature goes far beyond that. I love the feel of rope burns around my wrist and the comfort that comes with being restrained and bound. I am excited by the sense of anticipation when blindfolded or the way my body fights against a hand tightly wrapped around my throat. I become intoxicated when a rattan cane or firm palm strikes across my soft skin and every nerve ending in my body comes alive through fear and pleasure. More than this though, I have recognised that I am hopeless at self-control and discipline and that I strive when those responsibilities are taken from me and I am under the will of someone else. I find pleasure and inner peace from servitude. I feel good when I bring the person I am with, their drinks and breakfast in the morning, when I iron all their shirts, and keep on top of everything so that he can rest. Every part of my being wants to give... and give... and give.

I have been so lucky to have explored and played with people who came armed with knowledge and experience. I have been mentored by someone who is beautiful and strong in nature and effectively, someone who has become one of my best friends. Throughout this amazing journey of Dominance and submission, I have met an army of quirky and inspiring people and have made so many friendships within the community - both online and offline. I still consider myself very much a 'newbie' - because I am always learning and becoming aware of parts of my submission I am still on the way of understanding.


My submission is still there, it always will be - but for now it is taking a backseat in my relationship. Which primarily, has become the very reason of this Blog.

You can read more about how I became 'The Vanilla Submissive' here.